Sunday, October 2, 2016


I have blogged in a very long time and I am not sure why.

I think a part of me has always felt like I needed to define this blog. Make it something specific, create for a specific reason and define it for a specific audience.

When in actual fact, I just  really like writing, sharing and being.

I guess that can also be said about the kind of person I am. I have always felt like I needed to be defined by something? or fit into a category or a box. When I danced, I was a dancer, when I studied I was a student, when I did a lot of yoga I felt like yes, yes this yoga thing defines me! Or any other life stage or activity for that matter.

But I have decided I don't want to be defined by an activity or stage in my life right now. I am a living breathing thing. Each day I learn more about my life, choose to explore new things, start new conversations and be open to possibility.

I changed my IG's back to my name because Natalie is who I am - but I am realising the parts of Saturday Girl that I miss and that is the beauty of sharing aspect of who I am becoming and my odd little journeys and realisations.

Blogging and sharing online have often made me wonder if I am more of a sharer or an observer and I think I have reached the stage in my life where I am both, but going forward, the content I post and the things that I speak about will be a mix of truly all that is me, my thoughts,  feelings, interests, likes and dislikes - undefined and most importantly with no judgement from myself. The amount of times I want to write and share and then I panic about how it will be perceived and interpreted really has to stop *note to self*

I have always wanted find something to make my own and be good at it. Now I want to find things that evoke interest, that show me new insight and develop me as a person. Maybe one of things will become more of my own, but for now I would like to think what defines me is exactly who I am and where I am in my life right at this very second.

A little summery of the last year of who I am becoming:

I am braver, a little more consistent, a little less self obsessed and little more conscious of things that run deeper than the surface. I am learning to appreciating my sensitivity and trying to stop shutting myself down for being THAT person. The past few month have become about slowly and I mean slowly, learning to love my flaws and imperfections and also celebrate the things that make me me! I guess it is about realising that its not my hobby or my job or my relationship that define me, to a certain extent its all the heart and soul, guts and glory, tears and laughter, kindness, care and maybe even those occasional eye rolls and fiery eyed debates, moments of insecurity and tears of a poorly cut fringe that sort of define me as a normal living, human with a lot to give and learning how to give it!

I have learnt recently that it is ok to let things happen organically - to not push so much. To actually allow myself to be present in the space I am in instead of constantly catapulting myself forward in the future or pulling myself back into the past. It's about doing things with more thought - becoming aware and calmer, not acting with knee jerk reactions and not beating myself up (well still working on that!).

I am still growing and learning and changing and shifting and maybe I am undefined by society and of course, by myself, but maybe I am just me and this blog is an extension of that - I have always felt that this blog was not "good enough" or had no definition - that my writing was lame and made no sense, when in actual fact the reason I started a blog was to just try something new.

So why Saturday Girl the name?

I named this blog Saturday Girl because it came into my life based on where I was in my life. I was studying and working part time (High School and Uni) and I worked mainly Saturday's at part-time jobs.

I always felt that working weekends and pretty much every weekend or every holiday, meant that I was missing out on so much, but in actual fact those Saturday's paid off in the long run, they taught me a lot about myself, my skill set and how I engage with people. What took place on some magical Saturdays and some not so magical Saturday's taught me a lot about a variety of different aspects about myself and others and yes, I missed out on some great clifton beach seasons and some cool parties and a number of other things, but it was those Saturday's that shaped a small part of me and led me to where I probably am today (which I am really happy about!!!).

The one thing in my life that has always been consistent is at some point in any job since my part-time days, I have had to work a Saturday and you know what that is ok. It also happens to be the day  I wake up the earliest and feel all the stillness around me, its the day when I feel me, be it at home, or on the beach, walking through the forest, at work, having tea with my mom, lying in bed reading with Neil, doing admin, what ever it is, Saturday (Girl) will always be a part of me and it doesn't need to be a day that I have always tried to rush through - it is now just exactly what it is, another day, another day to live and let live and maybe it doesn't ever really need to be defined but I will add it to my basket of Me-isms and treasure it a little more.

So where do I truly want to take this blog? 

I have no idea, but I will share more, I will write more, but this time it will be done truly undefined and truly because this journal is mine and one that I have chosen to share because life is too short and too beautiful and too undefined to hid words for no good reason.


Thursday, February 25, 2016


I have posted before about a surf lesson I had in J-Bay over a year ago, it was a lot different to what I have experienced recently and I wanted to share my experience for any beginners out there who are looking to take a leap of faith and really give it a go!

Background with surf culture

A bit of background - My boyfriend of 5 years is an amazing surfer, we both attended a high school that focused largely around beach culture and surfing which has automatically become a big part of our lives. I have learnt to appreciate surf culture more in the last 5 years and also am a passionate advocate of the growing progression of female surfing globally which I think is pretty badass! 

Following surfers, surf photographers and surf brands on social media and also researching the sport as well as observing it has really made me more and more interested in it and the mindset that comes from getting into the ocean and experiencing that level of joy that comes from surfing. I have also had the opportunity to travel locally up the coast and see some amazing surf spots and watch my boyfriend really live his passion and hobbies. 

I love the sea - being in the sea is my favourite thing and I honestly believe that salt water cures every little thing! I have always wanted to surf, nothing fancy and nothing hardcore - just a fun longboard or mini mal at Muizies and have my own board and create my own times. I don't intend to get shacked on a monster barrel in Indo or big local spots for that matter like the boyf does, but I do want to really make surfing a part of MY life and create space for it.

Ok so learning from your boyfriend/ husband may work for some but for me I found that I was 100 percent reliant on mine to basically show me the way and I think if you are an advanced surfer going back to the basics is tricky - also if its someone you know/love you can winge, protests and wrap yourself around their neck if a piece of seaweed touches you. So after going out a few times and having a lot of fun playing around and one or two tiny cries (I am highly impatient and want to get things right the first time - things don't work that way) I finally got surf lessons for Christmas and my Birthday!

Surf lessons, schools and packages 

There are a variety of schools in Muizenberg and all of them are totally amazing! I personally fell in love with the Roxy Surf School at the Surf Emporium.

Different packages work for different needs, individual coaching,. The school has a host of coach who are all well training and totally professional! I always feel very safe in the water and appreciate what I learn from different coaches.

My package consisted of 4 surf lessons with a private instructor/coach from the ROXY SURF SCHOOL. If I add the second batch of lessons I got for my birthday I have 8 lessons in total and I have completed 5. 

My package also includes surf board and wetsuit hire as well as the use of the change rooms and hot shower at the school! WINNING

The actual lessons and getting into the water

I worked very hard to change my mindset when I got into the water. My experience in Jay bay actually made me a bit fearful and conditions were a bit much for me. Starting at Muizies is great because the waves are gentle and you feel more in control. I am naturally eager to get things right but have learnt that you need to be patient and actually learn and focus not only on yourself but also the ocean.

The first few lessons I really focused on getting up standing and worked on my placement of my feet and progressed to not using my knees each time. Different coaches have different methods and ways of teaching and its good to try them until you find what works for you.

The first few lessons you still need help getting into the waves and then getting onto them. I noticed that I have become better at balancing and controlling the board and realised I actually do need to paddle! I am still VERY much a beginner but I still push myself to think I am smashing it ;) 

As I have progressed - I have made an effort to go once a week baring the last two due to work/sick/timing. Getting up early and getting in the ocean no matter how successful the lesson was or wasn't really left me with a key emotion - happiness. The ocean is the most magical place and when you give in to yourself and your ego and do something for the sheer joy of it it is amazing what you can achieve.

I made sure to become more observant when I go for a lesson. Am I correcting myself when the coach gives feedback? During long lulus or spare moments I watch the surfers around me - how they stand up, balance and also catch a wave. I also made an effort to start learning when waves are going to break, what waves make me feel safe, am I able to control the board on my own, what triggers a moment of panic, can I force the panic to subside? I also go home and share the entire experience with the boyfriend who is incredibly patient. I have been totally trashed on a number of occasions and come out looking like a drowned rat and feeling a bit uncoordinated but its the best way to confront fears and have a quick reality check that you are in the ocean - not the backline, you can probably put your feet down and worst comes to worst you can head back to the beach!

Learning to surf has also improved my yoga and visa versa. I feel like I have a better understanding of my injury and also my strength and capability.  I am still very much a beginner and although I am getting up and staying on a bit longer I am still falling and still getting a tad trashed. But each time I try harder, give more and truly focus on taking away positives from the experience.

Having a coach means you have less chance of having a meltdown or giving up too easily. A coach is encouraging, supportive and ultimately keen to see you achieve your goals. Also great to have someone to talk to so you are not drifting around too alone. Having gone on different days with varied conditions and different coaches I have learnt a lot in a short space of time and I am practically itching to get back for the next lesson!

Tips for learning to surf - especially at Muizenberg 

Wear plenty of sunblock.

Hydrate before and after your lesson - lessons can last up to an one and a half hours.

Make sure you have the right wetsuit on to avoid chaffing - or one that is too big and ends up flushing and weighing you down.

Use ear drops and ear plugs if you have sensitive ears.

Make sure you are comfortable with the board and test different ones to see what works for you and make note of the conditions that work well with each board.

Warm up before hand because it really does help.

Be honest with the coach about where exactly you feel comfortable going - chest deep, backline etc etc. If you feel scared or uncomfortable talk about it because the coach offers assurance that will only help you grow.

Learn to hold onto the board from the word go - when you are trying to learn to surf a massive board can risk hurting you or someone else so make sure you are shown how to navigate while waiting for waves (or foamies) .

Try and go on the low tide - you can phone the school before hand to check the surf forecast.
Early morning is best - I have been going during the week at 7:30am as its less crowded and I don't feel like I am in everyones way.

If you can only go on the weekend try and go early as well as Muizenberg is full of surfers and swimmers who are bobbing along the break and shore which can be a bit tricky to navigate.

Be honest with yourself and don't be a hero - the coach is there is assist you and help you, take note and listen and when you find a coach that works for you try and work with them as often as possible. 

Be aware of your body and alignment - try and do exercises that will assist you on building strength.

Be aware of other surfers - if you practice with a school you have a vest identifying you as a beginner and I have found as long as you don't flounder too much other surfers are very patient and chilled if you get in the way - but for safety ask the coach for tips on how to move effectively out of the way. I am a bit nervous about getting injured so this is a big one for me.

Phone ahead to book a lesson and stick to it!

Be respectful of the school - rinse out your suit and you vest and hang it up!

Read: The Surf Girl Handbook: The Essential Guide For Surf Chicks Everywhere  this book is such a winner! I bought it a few years ago and most local bookshops and surf schools stock it! It has top tips, explains swell patterns, board types, beginners and intermediate levels as well as advanced tips for improving your skills. They also provide a great health plan, meal ideas and exercises to improve your fitness and surfing!

JUST HAVE A FUN AND ENJOY IT - its a gift to have mobility and to even live near the sea so make the most of it!

My goal is to complete my lessons, find a surf buddy and own my own board and badass wetsuit! 

If you have any questions about beginners surfing please drop me comment and I will do my best to assist :)

If you are a surfer - I am all about learning so please drop your hints, tips and advice in the comment sections :)